Divorce is messy enough without adding the fact that your spouse committed adultery. The first thing you should do once the secret is out is to really think about your next step. Maybe you should take some time to heal before making any harsh decisions or maybe you know that divorce is the only option. Either way, take time to talk to your spouse and to think about the after effects. This is especially important if you have children.

So let’s say you have thought things through and divorce is the answer. Now you need to determine your state laws. In some states, adultery may equal divorce, but in other states it would be considered a no-fault divorce. A no-fault divorce means that the spouse who wants the divorce has no obligation to prove that the other person is guilty of adultery. However, if you have children and they will be effected by the adulterer, then that changes the ground rules of your no-fault divorce. Overall the most important thing is to think about the children and the divorce’s impact on them. Speak with a legal professional to decide what is best for you and your children.