When divorced or divorcing parents are working out their custody schedule, the school year schedule requires special attention and accommodation. When dividing visitation and responsibilities for kids that are out on break or too young for school, the calendar can be based on what works best for parents’ work schedules. But as soon as school comes into the picture, everything changes: pick-up and drop-off needs to adjust to the school day and the bus schedule; if both parents work then you’ll need to make arrangements for aftercare or to get the kids to their after-school activities and extracurriculars; homework needs to be addressed, and even the sleep schedule may have to change in order to make sure that your child is well rested for class. Though it may feel impossible to make these adjustments in a way that still allows both parents ample time with the child, a family law divorce attorney can help.

The best way to start is with a clear parenting plan. When a visitation schedule is explicit and detailed, everybody knows what to expect on a day-to-day basis, and it also becomes easier to make adjustments to accommodate special events such as PTA meetings, science fairs, band concerts and Brownie meetings. As children get older, they begin to exert more power over their own schedules, and it is essential that both parents remain flexible, communicate well, and allow for adjustments to the visitation schedule to accommodate their interests and friendships.

As long as you keep your focus on what is in your child’s best interest, figuring out a new visitation schedule around the school year should not be a problem. Many parents who live in the same school district have found success in arranging for kids to take buses to each of their homes, or if the school will only allow for one address then the parent whose night it is can pick the child up at the home or bus stop after school. Parents who live in different school districts may need to work out a weekday/weekend schedule or may need to adjust living arrangements in order to allow a child to go to school in a better school district.

Sharing custody is always difficult, but if you remember that what is most important is your child’s quality of life and you having quality time with them, then you’ll be better able to come up with a plan without conflict or stress. For assistance in creating a workable visitation schedule for the school year, contact our office today to speak with a family law divorce attorney.