So, you’re thinking about divorcing your spouse. It’s not uncommon, and it’s not unrealistic, and it may not even be unjustified. But before you go ahead and start down the legal road or announce your intentions to end your marriage, stop for a minute and make sure that this is what you really want to do. Divorce is just as big a decision as marriage is, and it deserves the same amount of consideration. If you just look back at the time you spent anticipating a proposal, planning a wedding and all the rest of the details involved in joining your lives together, you should understand that there are things worth stopping and considering before making the decision to end your marriage. Here are some of the most important:

  • Have you effectively communicated your concerns/dissatisfaction with the relationship? The problems may be obvious to you, but if you haven’t made them clear to your spouse then you haven’t given them the chance to work with you to fix things.
  • Are you sure that you both have the same expectations of your roles in your marriage? If you haven’t discussed this and your unmet expectations are part of why you want to leave, then you really haven’t given the relationship – or your partner – a chance to make things right.
  • Would counseling help? Sometimes the partner who takes action to end the marriage does so because they just assume that there is no hope, when in truth marriage counseling can be very effective. Given the chance to save the marriage, isn’t it worth it for you to at least try?
  • Are you sure that you’d be happier divorced? Sometimes people who are dissatisfied in their marriage imagine that life outside of marriage will be significantly better. In fact, being divorced can be a lonely place. Even if your needs aren’t being fully met, it is smart to consider what your life without your spouse will be like realistically before making the jump to divorce.
  • If you have children, how will the divorce affect them? This is a very important question. If your marriage is so unhappy that it is affecting your kids then divorce may be the right answer. On the other hand, if your children are dependent on both of you getting along, you need to think ahead and work together as co-parents in order to make sure that your kids get through the process as well as possible.

These are just a few of the important points that you need to think about before diving into a divorce. If you are certain that your marriage is irrevocably broken and you need help navigating the legal process, contact our office today to set up an appointment to discuss your situation.

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