Divorce is a painful, challenging, confusing experience, and it is completely normal to find yourself questioning your decision. Though nobody can tell you what to do with your life, there are a few things for you to keep in mind. One is that having doubts is common, especially if you are tired and economically and/or emotionally depleted. You may be getting pressure from your spouse, from their family or yours, or from friends who are encouraging you to give the marriage another chance, especially if you have children or have been together for many years.

If you are asking yourself whether there’s still a chance of fixing your relationship or whether the situation is hopeless, it’s a good idea to take yourself back to the moment when you made the decision to move forward with ending your marriage. Was it a moment of anger, or following a long period of consideration? Were you responding to a single argument or fight, or have the two of you been unhappy with each other for a long time? Was there infidelity or violence involved?

Remembering and understanding how you got to your decision may bring you back from what is giving you pause now. There are several different factors that are generally behind people having second thoughts. These include:

  • Fear – When you make the decision to divorce, you are putting yourself at risk. Risk of the outcomes of the divorce itself in terms of your finances, your living situation, your child custody outcomes and whether you will end up in another relationship in the future or be single.
  • Self Esteem – One of the unfortunate outcomes of being in a bad marriage is low self-esteem, and this can cause you to doubt all of your decisions, including those that may end up putting you in a better spot.
  • Love – The need to end a marriage does not necessarily mean that your love for the other person is gone.
  • Hope – Even when things have gotten terrible, it is an entirely normal human response to have hopes that things can improve.

Only you can judge whether reconciliation makes sense, but an experienced divorce attorney may be able to provide you with answers that will allay some of your fears and concerns. The more you know and understand the process, the more clarity you may feel. Contact us today if you would like to speak with one of our divorce attorneys.

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